Why Your Job Isn’t To Win in Training
Listen, we all love to win. I know the feeling (and the opposite feeling all too well), but trust me when I tell you that your join isn’t to win in training. In a competitive scenario, the mats are a battlefield. But when it comes to your every day training, the mats are instead a laboratory for development.
While the primal urge to "win the round" is strong, and natural, indulging it often leads to stagnation, plateaus, and, ironically, a slower path to your holistic Jiu-Jitsu development. I’m going to illustrate how prioritising winning sabotages your own development using three common scenarios.
How to train smarter, not harder
Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu can be, and frankly often is, an exhausting and painful sport. And the older you get, the bigger toll it takes on your body. It’s therefore critical that you learn to manage how you train, because if your only training strategy is to roll until your lungs collapse, then congratulations, you’ve won a trip to A&E! Or at the very least, a wonderful dose of extended fatigue. Hooray.
If you want to make sustainable progress in this sport, you need to understand how to train smarter, not harder.
Three things I wish I knew as a White Belt
When you start Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu, it feels like being dropped into a foreign country where everyone speaks fluent violence and you don’t even know how to say “hello.” I remember those early months extremely vividly. The constant sense of drowning, sometimes literally in sweat. Looking back, there are a few things I wish I’d known at the start. They would’ve saved me a ton of frustration, helped put my training in to context, and accelerated my development if I took them seriously.
How to Redefine Winning in Jiu-Jitsu
If you train Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu for any length of time, you’ll quickly realise something uncomfortable but essential: you’ll lose far more rounds than you’ll ever win. Far be it from me to be pessimistic, but I am realistic, and that’s the reality of the sport we play. It is a sport of continuous struggle.
So the question becomes, how does one keep showing up, stay motivated, and find meaning when “winning” by submissions isn’t happening very often?
The answer is to reframe what success means.

